Monday, January 24, 2011

Green Eyes Text Game and AAR

This is some of my early text game. You'll see a few fuck ups, but overall I think it went well. Logistics never panned out with her (she was away all summer), otherwise I think a Day2 would have followed.
Couple notes:
  • Too many emoticons. Do NOT use emoticons. It is approval seeking. I do NOT use emoticons anymore.
  • I was experimenting with several techniques here like asking a seemingly innocuous question at the end of a response text to keep the vibe going.
  • The staples: Sugarmomma, limited availability, DHV's, nicknames, and C&F

----- Met her at a dive bar and we played pool (billiards).
----- Sent her the first text on the way home. I always do this now.
----- You should, too.

Hey Green Eyes, Had fun tonight. Hope to see you again.
Sweet dreams, Pulsotic
Thanks, but I thought it was 'Pulsotic" with a 'Z'?
(inside joke at number close, I said to her, "that's 'Pulsotic' with a 'Z'" as she was entering the number)

----- A few weeks pass.
----- Sometimes I like to let them stew.
----- I'm in no hurry to text them and the whole time, they're
----- likely thinking about me BECAUSE I haven't texted again.

Hey Green Eyes, I'm in town tonight. Let's meet up for a drink or pool. I'm a "pro", ya know. ('pro' is an inside joke)
Hey! I can't tonight.. I'm going home for my birthday dinner in Wxxx Cxxxxx
45? ;) J/K Happy Birthday. If you're around on Wednesday you should come to Kxx Fxx... My band is playing... We go on first, about 9 I think, which sucks, but I don't know when I'll be back in town.
Yeah! Sorry it took me so long to respond... My phone died. But I'm always in the city and I love Kxxx Fxx so I'll probably show up... What do you play?
I play the Bikelophone. It's wicked easy. I've only been playing it for a week and I think I've mastered it! ;) Guitar, actually. I think this is my last show with them, but we'll see... I've not been to Kxxx Fxx yet, what should I expect? (I gave up the joke too easily)
It's fun... there's a room with the bar area and whatnot and then a big back room for dancing and the stage... a bit hipster but I like it

P.S. what the hell is a bikelaphone? haha
Kxxx Fxx sounds cool. I'll probably dig it. BTW, I thought you WERE a hipster... I'm soooo disappointed ;) A Bikelophone is... hard to explain :) (you do not have to answer a direct question, better if you don't. I should NOT have acknowledged her P.S. 'bikelaphone' question.)
haha I'm maybe a bit of one... I don't usually admit it though.
Drummer didn't show but I'm still hangin' out here w/ bands. You coming out?
Hey I'm not sure... I have exams this week so if I get done studying by like 10:30 I might... do I have to pay to get in?
It's like 50 bucks to get in. You can just pay me 30 and I'll let you in the back ;p you just missed the best onemanband ever!! I'll put you on the list. Nobigdeal. Make sure you studyhard and get a good job... I need a sugar momma ;) see you soon.
Haha we'll see..I'm trying to get everything done now..I'll keep you updated
----- A day later -----

Hey hipster, exams go well?
yeah, but I still have some next week too... how was Kxxx Fxx? sorry I couldn't make it.
It was fun. Woulda been better if our drummer showed. Wcyd? The bands were great. Last one was from Australia. Female guitarist and a male drummer, like white stripes, but backward... And more rockin'. You were right, the place was pretty cool. We met up with some friends and I think I stayed out a bit too late for a work night, but it was worth it. What exams you have left? (Woah, way too much for this text. Should have been: 'You missed a CRAZY party. What exams you have left?' - This would have induced 'fear of loss', set me up as someone who has a lot of fun, and stoked her curiosity, provided I was coy. Contrast that to a lame, "Sucks that you couldn't come out." Which would make me look like I missed HER. But I'd never do that.)
Marketing, human resource management and accounting... should be awful!
I love marketing! Lot of psychology in that. I can totally see you as a book worm, though. I'm a closet nerd myself. Are those required classes or are you majoring in 'awful'? ('I love marketing!' and 'closet nerd' were both VERY bad. I like the rest, though.)
majoring in awful. but taking creative writing and poetry courses for writing intensives so it's not TOO bad. When are you heading to Philly again?
I'll be there this Sat. I might go to the phillies game before that or get some lunch. That's good you have creative courses, too. I went to xxxx college. Aside from painting, my favorite classes were writing. Have you written poetry?
I just recently got really into it, it's so therapeutic! And I was at the Phillies game last night!
Therapeutic? That's a good description. I completely lose track of time when writing... Like everything around you melts away... and the only thing in the universe is what's right in front of you...
(lame, lame, lame attempt at suggestion, but it did help lead me to my 'writing pattern'. I do not do this anymore. Tried a couple times but it always fails in this medium UNLESS it is sexual.)

----- A week later -----

Hey Green Eyes, You won't believe what happened to me over the last 24 hours (let's just say it involved off-duty cops, 2 strippers, and a penguin) Anyhow I'm going out a couple of times to celebrate this week, but might get a few hours spare at some point, how’s your week looking?
haha a penguin? I won't ask. What are you celebrating? And what're you doing monday night? My friend's having a bday celebration at the Bxxxx in fishtown
(I CHOSE not to go to her party because I didn't have a wing that night, and as a rule, I don't meet women on their terms.)

Hey Hipster, how was the party? Sorry I couldn't make it, I had to help my aunt move. I'll be around on Saturday night, though. We may go to Rittenhouse or Old City.. be cool to meet up. I'll leave the penguin home ;)
haha. hi... the party was awesome... mostly a 'girls night' anyway. I'm not gonna be here sat, I have to work all night at the beach.. our schedules never agree!
Eeeew, girls night? I dodged a bullet, 'cuz girls are gross! :P You're right, it's become too difficult... we should just break up... I want my CD's back. Well, have fun working. Which beach are you going to?
hahaha I'm going to Cape May but I'll be back and forth from there to Philly often this summer. I'll let you know when I'm around.
----- A week later -----

You in philly tonight?

----- No response -----


Should I have gone to her friend's birthday party?
Well, I didn't and we never met up again.
So the three second rule has a correlation with Day 2's.
If you don't ACT when the opportunity presents itself,
you may never get the chance to again.
My decision to decline her invitation was amateurishly calculated. I did not feel confident enough to go there by myself, where I knew only her, and where she knew everyone. Sure it would have been easier if I had a wing (I would have had someone else to talk to while she bounced from me to her friends), but now, much later, I feel like I could go by myself, talk to anyone, and be just fine.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Betas Don't Listen

Old axiom: "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."

My Beta friends ask me for advice. I give it to them (ONLY when they ask). And they still keep doing the stupid shit they do.

*** So, why do they bother asking?! I actually know the psychology behind it.
*** This post is just me venting.

Case in point:
I was at a party with some friends and the drummer for my band tells me he went out a week ago and, following my example (thank the gods), he did the opposite of what he normally does. He was aloof and arrogant and got a girls number for the first time in years! (not an exaggeration)

He says he got the number over A WEEK AGO and asks me if he should call her. I said, "No... Text." I even gave him the line to text, "It was great meeting you the other night, I'd like to find out if you're more than just a pretty face. What's your schedule like this week?"

He says, "Yeah, Ok."
I said, "I'm fucking serious. Do it NOW."
"I will."

His whole demeanor is that of defeat and he hasn't even been rejected yet. I'm so dissappointed. If he was willing to try until he failed he may have had a lot of fun with this girl. Instead, he's accepted failure before he's even tried. His ego is so fragile now, after years of abuse, that he cannot take another hit. So he shuts down.

I'm very happy to hear that he tried when he went out and I hope that it means he's turning a new leaf. It would just go so much smoother for him if he'd listen.

Monday, January 17, 2011

Off Night, but Fun. Andy and HB 3apples Conclusion. Field Report.

Met up with Andy (not his real name) through the Philly Lair. My usual wing, Raz, couldn't make it tonight, so it was just me and Andy.

We hung out at Nxxx Mxxx bar and talked about game for a while. I missed the MG&S the night before so he told me what went down. At his request I looked at his text game and gave him some pointers. While we were talking I opened a 5 as she was trying to get a beer next to me. It didn't go well, but her friend was all smiles. Andy reflected on the propensity for ugly girls to shit test. I agreed. More work than it's worth, but I think this one was my fault. I don't think I projected the right vibe. On top of that, I failed a shit test. She said leather is too cold for the winter and people only wear leather to look cool. I forget what I said, but it wasn't good. I wasn't in state and forgot the basics like: 'agree and amplify', e.g. "Oh, so you think I look cool? Thanks, but this compliment thing won't get you anywhere. I need to be wined and dined."

Andy and I stayed there and talked a bit too long and I was completely out of state. I tried to open another set outside which flopped. To a 2set who were smoking cigarettes outside, "I know you get this from a lot of guys, but I have to ask you a question......... do you have a light?" The shorter girl laughed, but the taller girl was giving a ton of shit. Turns out she was 'committed' to some guy. Everything I was saying should have been funny, but my delivery was off. After the set was blown, Andy asked them what they look for when they go out at night. I would not have done that.

We walked on to Pxxx and Sxxx, passing a couple guys fighting on the sidewalk on the way. We got a beer and didn't open anyone. This time of night, 11pm, it's ALWAYS a dick farm. Andy went to talk to a friend and I went outside for a cigarette and to check out the talent. I spotted a girl (a cute brunette) by herself at a table. "Care if I sit with you? They said I have to be sitting if I'm drinking a beer ('they' didn't and I don't know if that's true)". Vibe went really well. I was riffing with her for a solid 3 minutes and we were both laughing. I was 'in'. Some dudes tried to cock block while I was talking to her. The transparent idiots asked her for a light (she wasn't smoking and I was). She said, "No." But they were lingering, so I said, "I got one." Lit the guy's smoke and said, "Take it easy, guys." (translation: "fuck off") Half a minute later Andy came out and we had to meet HB 3apples and her friends at another bar. I went for a number close with the brunette and got rejected. She's a 'lesbian'. I said, "Wow, that's the first time I've been rejected by a lesbian." She acted hurt, and said, "I'm not rejecting you. I really AM a lesbian. I told you my Girlfriend is inside."
I actually believe her.

(HB 3apples is from Gaming in Line at a Concert Post)

We walk across the street to Axxxx bar. Met up with HB 3apples and the rest of the bridal shower party (her brother is getting married, party was for her sister in law). She was like 3 1/2 apples with her heels. The 8 girls at this party were ok. There were three that I thought were very good looking. Two blondes and a black haired girl with a lazy eye (her only flaw - I was actually imagining role play with her as a pirate). Regardless, I couldn't game any of them because I was 'with' HB 3apples. I was glad Andy was here because I had another dude to talk to. Soon as we got there we all went out to Lxxxxx near Rittenhouse.

Waited in line. Told some jokes... A guy is at a bar drinking shot after shot. Bartender says, "Hey, you celebrating something?" Guy says, "Yeah, my first blowjob ever!" Bartender says, "In that case, this one's on me." Guy says, "I appreciate the offer, but if six shots don't get the taste outta my mouth, nothing will."

Got to the door guy and I paid for myself. Caught some girls eye and she smiled at me. She walks away and turns back and looks at me again and smiles. Then HB 3apples hits me and says, "You didn't pay for me?!" Ugh. Drama? Really? She was trying to give me shit but I said, "I didn't realize this was a 'date'." And, "I can't believe you're going to ruin our friendship over this."

She came back with, "What, you don't think I can pick up any guy in this bar?" Holy shit, this girl just dropped like 4 fuckin' points. First of all, I wasn't really into her, but I did really want to bang her. How could she think that I would put up with that kind of behavior?

So I ditched her for a bit and hung out with Andy. I came back later and she was much more sane.

One of the more attractive girls there was surrounded by guys and Andy rolls up to her and says, "You're not as hot as you think you are." and walks away. He comes over to me while I'm with 3apples and tells me what he did. As he's telling me this, over his shoulder I see the chick storming over to us yelling something. My drama-sense was tingling so I ditched the whole situation. Yeah, I admit it, I ran. But who needs that shit. 3apples was giving HB Nothot the validation she needed and completely blew out Andy. Could I have saved that one? No. Do I feel bad that I left Andy in the claws of the harpies? No. He was shooting out of his league right now (9/10 guys would consider her a high 9) and... you reap what you sow.

I think he did some things very right, however. First of all, he's willing to move out of his comfort zone and try new stuff. That's the only way to learn. He tried a gambit that was too far above his ability, but that's normal in the beginning. And from what he said, he's very new to cold approaching so of course he's going to be pushing the limits.

After this I opened a 4set to kinda show Andy the ropes. It hooked easily and we were in for a good 5-10 minutes. Andy was talking to a black haired girl and I was chatting up the other 3. I asked Andy, "If you wanted to get one of their numbers, who would it be?" He said 'the blonde'. So I said, "Go talk to her". He made a B-line for the other side of the set while I played interference with the black haired chick that was hanging on him. It went well and he got the number.

AMOG outside.
At 2am we left and got a smoke outside the bar. Lotta people around. While 3apples and I smoked and talked to Andy, two guys rolled up (gray overcoat and khaki overcoat) and started talking to 3apples, never acknowledging Andy or me. I waited a bit, giving them time to correct their faux pas. They still ignored us. The khaki overcoat bums a smoke from 3apples and doesn't have a light. I said, "I got it", and stood in front of him, invading his space and blocking him from 3apples. I light his cigarette with a match. He says thanks and introduces himself by shaking hands. I shake his hand firmly but don't let go. He doesn't let go. It was a standoff. He says, "That's a nice coat." I said, in an aristocratic tone, "Best half a grand you can spend is on leather." A second later he let go first. Then I backed out of his space, chatted a minute (he asked for my business card) and then met up with 3apples, who previously rolled off.

It's after 2 now. The bridal party still wants to party so they go to the after hours club next door. I hang outside with 3apples and Andy for about 20 minutes. Some drunken Sean Penn lookalike tried to get into the club by showing his credit card, then stumbled into the street. Andy makes a joke about giving me and 3apples some space so we can bang on the sidewalk and 3apples said to me, "I'm not that kinda girl. You have to take me to a nice restaurant and buy me stuff before I do that... or maybe not."

Andy heads home and I make out with 3apples for a bit. She said, "I was so mad at you earlier, but I don't know why I'm not now." Then we went into the club. The club, or should I say 'Chode Hut', was ridiculous. The dancefloor was small with the bridal party in the middle and guys against the wall. Every once in a while the guys would move in on the girls and try 'bump and grind' game. Pitiful. The girls blew them all off and we rolled after a minute.

HB 3apples has logistics issues that I don't feel like overcoming and her entitlement complex is really annoying. We had nowhere to go to be alone, so she went home with her cousins and I went home alone. Sunday she texted twice and called four times. I deleted her number.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Picture/Number Close

Gambits are modified as we use them.

One of my favorite gambits is taking a picture of me and a girl with my phone and then sending it to her phone via text msg as a way to get her number. I like this for two reasons. One, I get her number. Two, I remember what she looks like. Now, it's a little transparent, and I've been called out on it, but I'm not sure if that's entirely a bad thing. My intentions are pretty obvious anyway and I've ALWAYS gotten the number. If I've spent enough time chatting with a girl that she feels comfortable with me taking a picture of her, then it's usually a good bet that a number close will be in the cards. And getting called out on it is a shit test, that if passed, will give you more value.

HER: You only did that to get my number.
ME: Hang around, I'll show you some more moves.

That works well, but I think it may be better to lead the girl to think that the picture text is her idea. So next time after I take the picture I'll say, "Too bad it's not a polaroid or I could give you a copy." Which should prompt her to say, "Well you could text it to me."

I think it'll work better because it'll bypass her critical mind. Since it was her idea, as she thinks about it later, she'll rationalize to herself that she gave her number to me because she liked me, whereas in the previous method, she would come away from the interaction rightfully thinking I tricked her.

I'll see how this works in field. I may have to try a couple different ways.

Monday, January 10, 2011

New Years Resolutions

I was at a friend's for New Years and my current girl was nagging me about making a New Year's resolution. I told her, "OK, I resolve to fuck you more." She smiled devilishly.

So far I'm doing pretty good on my resolution. I haven't had much of a problem with motivation.

Friday, January 7, 2011

Pretty in Pink: Duckie Revisited

Betas. Alphas.
The whole dichotomy can be summed up with one movie:
Pretty in Pink.

Where in this movie, the loser Beta, Duckie, is a lesser character juxtaposed with the Alpha (Blane) to emphasize the Alpha's qualities, newer movies (anything with Michael Cera or Jonah Hill for example) are featuring the Betas in lead roles and glamorizing limerance and one-itis. This turn of events is disgusting.

What they are doing is telling impressionable young males that it is not only acceptable to behave like twerps, but that it is what they are supposed to do. Fuck that.

To illustrate how wrong it is to idolize weakness, I present new evidence:

An esteemed publication, Entertainment Weekly, printed a 20th anniversary DOUBLE ISSUE, #1125/1126 - Oct. 22/29, 2010, featuring "Classic Casts Reunited!" Featured were 'Back to the Future' stars, 'Married... with Children', and 'Pretty in Pink'.

On page 57, the 'Pretty in Pink' actors, Jon Cryer (Duckie), Molly Ringwald, and Annie Potts, were interviewed and asked this question:

"Where do you think your characters ended up?"

Molly Ringwald: "I'm sure that Duckie came out by now."
John Cryer: "Yes. He's in Gay Pride. He's the guy with no shirt and the suspenders. That's him. I never quite saw him that way, but perhaps that's because I'm married now."

It's not just fiction anymore. Molly Ringwald saw the dweeb who was IN LOVE with her character as GAY. So let me extrapolate from here. Women are going to see males like Duckie, ie, the lovable loser, as soooo feminine that they are not even considered as candidates for entry to vag-land. They take themselves off the market by being too sensitive and too vulnerable. Those are feminine qualities. Ever see a guy and immediately think he's gay, but then find out he's got a crush (one-itis) on a girl? What they're doing is projecting female body language and mannerisms. Of course they're not gay (probably) and Duckie isn't gay. But my point is that if you are acting like a twerp, a woman will not be enamored by it and magically choose to swoon.

She will reminisce 25 fucking years later on LJBF-ing you and justify it to themselves because you were 'gay'.

Yet another example of a female's intrinsic ability to backwards rationalize her behavior. Even when it's FICTION. Does Molly really think Duckie was gay? The guy was PINING for her and she knew it, but her identity is that of a 'nice' person, and mixing fantasy with reality, as is all too common with actors, the rules of cognitive dissonance dictate that she cannot hold conflicting ideas simultaneously. The idea of herself being 'nice' and the idea of her character selfishly stringing along Duckie are like oil and water. Something's gotta give. Using confirmation bias, she abandons past facts to form a memory of Duckie that would retain her self-identity, instead of separating Movie Molly from Real Molly. If Duckie is gay, then she did nothing wrong and everything is neat and tidy in her head.

Now let's psychoanalyze John Cryer. Still a douche and STILL playing the part of Beta to the Alpha (Charlie Sheen in 'Two and a Half Men', or 'One Man, a Douche, and a Minor'). He's agreeing with Molly Ringwald (just like a suck up, 'maybe she'll like me if we have the same opinion') even though he's basically making fun of himself.

Hollywood casts actors for roles they would naturally fit. That means he's really just playing HIMSELF in 'Pretty in Pink' as well as 'Two and a Half Men'. As an example, and only using males for this, watch a late night talk show where they interview an actor. They act exactly as you would expect them to (Adam Sandler, Daniel Craig, Zach Braff, Matthew McConaughey, Russell Brand, Nick Nolte, Gilbert Gottfried).

The fact that he's Negging himself puts him in the realm of self-deprecation to try to manipulate a woman into liking him. First of all, an Alpha would NOT care what she thought because she's old and ugly, and second, an Alpha would not say anything bad about himself because he would have self-respect and, if anything, he'd be COCKY.

Does John Cryer think there's anything wrong with the way Duckie behaves? I don't think so. After he agrees that he's gay, he backpedals with, 'I never quite saw him that way', and then he mentions his marriage in a national publication so everyone knows he's straight. The sentence doesn't even make sense. This tells me that he had an agenda to mention his marriage in the interview. It was on his mind the whole time and he vomitted it out as a non sequitur at the first chance he got.

I just really don't like this guy. If I had the choice of meeting either John Cryer or getting punched in the face by Charlie Sheen. I'd choose the Sheen punch.

Beta-izing yourself creates obstacles to getting laid.
Ducky was beta and did not get the girl.
The EW article features REAL people's opinions and said opinions paint the 'lovable loser' character as sexually unattractive to females.
Movies where the 'lovable loser' gets the girl are 100% BULLSHIT.
I'm going to go watch Bond.